Deflowered and Disappointed

Dear Brian,
Hi. I am an 18 year old boy that is very confused! I recently found out that I am gay and had my first experience making love with a man. But I didn't like it because he wasn't what I expected. I mean I wanted someone good looking and fit, and he was every thing but good looking and fit!! Now I don't know what to do. I am trying to find someone who would want sex and be good looking and fit. I know that this seems very childish but I am crushed.
- Torn_in2

Dear Torn_in2,
I'm not surprised that your first gay sex experience left you disappointed. You obviously were not attracted to the man who claimed your virginity. But why are you confused? Are you under the impression that being gay means you should enjoy sex with any available man? That would make you a slut (not that there's anything wrong with that). If you want someone fit and good-looking, go out and find him. At 18, you have plenty of time to find the man you want. Until he comes along, hang up your kneepads and keep your lips sealed.

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