Crossroads - Which way to go?

Dear Brian,
I was wondering if you would mind helping me out with my problem... I had sex with two different guys in the last year (more than once with each of them), but I also have a girlfriend and we've been dating for a year right now. I did not have sex yet with my girlfriend but I do really love her. But now, I think I fell in love with a guy I met in my karate class. I also am wondering if I really am bisexual or maybe simply gay since I only had sex with guys up to now.. I'm all confused myself... The guy I like has blond hair, brown eyes, he's around 25 years-old and I really fell for him when we were in a competition when we were changing in the changing room. I saw him in his boxers and his hair made his pecs even more defined and he has some nice defined abs...this really made me fall for him. But, I think he is hetero and would not like to have sex with a guy... I was wondering if you could help me to maybe give me tricks to try and seduce him if he might be interested into guys...who knows? Thanks for your advice.
- Confused guy

Dear Confused guy ,
Who knows, indeed? But based on what you've related about yourself, you are not bisexual. You are gay. If you're 25 and have been dating a girl for a year but still haven't had sex with her but have had multiple sexual experiences with men during the same period, well, your true orientation is pretty clear. Accept it, gently inform your girlfriend of the fact (unless you're both satisfied with a platonic brother-sister relationship), and make a move on the karate stud. The question is how. As long as you're confident he won't react with horror at being the object of another man's lust, you might just do what you probably can't help but do, anyway: stare at him, especially in the changing room when those beautiful pecs and abs are visible. Let your tongue glide slowly over your lips when you gaze at his body, and smile in a sweet, flirtatious way, the way a girl might smile at a guy. Find an excuse to touch him, perhaps by wiping some perspiration off his body. Yo u don't need to tell him straight out that you want sex. Your non-verbal but unabashedly intimate clues will be a dead giveaway. You might also ask him to show you "some moves," anything that would give you a reason to get close to him.

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