How Do I Tell My Girlfriend I'm Gay?

Dear Brian,
I have a very, very big problem.  I am eighteen, and although I may think so, I am not very experienced on the relationship front. I've had both boyfriends and girlfriends in the past, at the moment I have a girlfriend, but having recently gone to Amsterdam for a couple of days with a few friends I have realized that I don't like women but men. The  relationship with my girlfriend is still fresh as it is only 4 weeks old.  She is a very pretty girl and is so kind hearted, she knows that I have slept with men before and doesn't mind but I cant kid myself anymore, I don't want this relationship but can't end it, is there any advice you can give me to end it nicely, because I would still like to be her friend but want men instead.
- Please Help Me

Dear Please Help Me,
This situation requires all the tact and diplomacy you can muster. The fact that she knows you've slept with men may make things easier, but if she's fallen for you, the sudden revelation that you are gay could be hurtful. But you simply have to tell her. Be honest, but gentle. Tell her how much you appreciate her friendship and how important she is to you, but that you know you are homosexual, and, therefore, a romantic relationship isn't going to work. I wouldn't recommend saying "It isn't you, it's me," but that should be the gist of your statement. You must be sure she understands that your lack of interest in her romantically and sexually cannot be taken personally. As a homosexual, you need a man. A girl, no matter how pretty or kind-hearted, could never satisfy your needs, nor could you satisfy hers. Since the relationship is only four weeks old, the sooner you break the news, the easier it should be for her to take. Good luck.

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