Taking A Second Chance

Dear Brian,
Hi! Thank you very much for taking your time to read my e-mail. I'm Roberto, a gay 19 y/o guy. I'm in college now, and since the beginning I had a big crush on a guy. I told him that I liked him but he already had a boyfriend, so there wasn't any possibility for me to go out with him. It was a little bit awkward to see him after that. A few months later, he broke up. Now, he's being closer to me, and we've developed a great friendship. We talk to each other everyday, and we hang out sometimes. I still feel something for him, so I'm interested again in having a relationship with him. I don't want to tell him anything because I don't want to pass through the same thing as before, so what should I do? I'd appreciate your opinion. Thank you!
- Roberto

Dear Roberto,
If he's unattached and the two of you have established a great and close friendship, it sounds to me like he's hoping to rekindle your interest. Why not remind him of how you feel? Since he already knows you're attracted to him, you shouldn't have to be too blunt. Just drop some easy to interpret hints to let him know you're available and want to be more than friends. Make eye contact - long, deep eye contact - whenever possible, and show your affection physically. Give him a gentle kiss if you can, caress his knee, etc. If he's interested, he'll respond.

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