Bound To Get Burned

Dear Brian,
I have had a boyfriend since New Years Eve 2001 and I love him very much, but I have a friend who i have a lot of feelings for and we have sex now and again but he is very straight with a wife and girlfriend. I really enjoy being with him and the sex is very hot. What should I do?
- Marty

Dear Marty,
Does this boyfriend you've had since New Years Eve 2001 know that you're tasting sugar on the side?  If you "love him very much" you should at least find out if he approves and is accepting of an open relationship.  No, I do not suggest you simply blurt out that you're also seeing someone else, but hint around a bit to get a reaction.  If it doesn't bother him, be warned that you would have to accept the possibility that he, too, might want to take a bite from some forbidden fruit.  If he doesn't approve, be prepared to see your relationship end. 
 
As for your friend, he may have a wife and a girlfriend but if he's having sex with you, especially "hot sex," he certainly isn't "very straight."  He is, at the least, bi-sexual and could very well be gay but closeted and overly determined to keep his closet door nailed shut (I mean really, a wife AND a girlfriend).  I would recommend that you do a little soul searching to decide which man you love the most and which one is most willing to return that love.  I'd put my money on your boyfriend.  If so, you should probably cool it with your friend.  The sex may be hot but someone is bound to get burned.

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