First Dinner Dates

It was my first date with R, and he’d taken me to a nice Spanish restaurant in a quaint part of San Francisco. I remember the food was yummy, the sangria was delicious and the flamenco music was enchanting. Everything was quite pleasant, except for one thing. This guy just would not look at me during the course of the entire evening. Occasionally he'd force himself to glance at me, but no more than that. Nice. Now that I was positive that I'd somehow repulsed him, I decided to start getting a bit uncomfortable myself. But at the end of the evening, he asked me out again. I later found out that he was avoiding looking at me because he had been nervous!

This has happened to me more than once. I remember a first date with B, we had just been seated for dinner at some hipster joint, when he started to look kind of greenish. When I asked if he was feeling okay, he sputtered "I think I'm going to be sick." Yep, same thing. Either I bring out the worst in my first dates or I'm so damn all that that I make ‘em shake in their boots. Yeah, right.

First dates can be so exciting, and yet equally stressful. I recall a first date with a guy who took me to a take-out burrito stand for date 1. I tell you, I was not amused. Maybe he was trying to be cute. And cheap. But he wasn't poor. The impression I got from him was "this is how far I feel I should go to impress you…" I guess I wasn't that crazy about him, because he put out so little effort, that it didn't matter. He called for weeks after that, but after date 2 (coffee shop), I'd had enough.

I remember something interesting I'd read in a magazine once…that you can tell how good a man is in bed by how he eats and how he drives. If he’s persnickety about his eating habits, for example: he orders the same thing all the time, picks one thing and eats it all first, screams when his carrots touch his potatoes - we can just imagine him in the sack - But... if he shares his food with you, if he knows what he likes, wants to taste everything, and really savors it- well, we can just imagine what he'd be like. (wink) I suppose the same theory could apply to driving. Cutting people off, not using blinkers, and a lot of speeding tickets might make you wonder...

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