How long I should wait to call her and ask her out again?

Dear Brenda,

You may think I'm an idiot after reading this, but bear with me. I've kind of become an expert at meeting and going out with the wrong girls and just basically having bad luck, so I guess I'm a little wary now.

I went out last night with a girl I met online. We've been emailing back an forth almost every day, sometimes twice a day, for a month now, and had a couple phone conversations. About ten days ago I asked her if she'd like to meet, and she didn't hesitate in saying yes. She wasn't available for the day I'd suggested, but did have an alternative.

Last night we met at a restaurant and ate together. In an email she'd sent yesterday morning she even said she was excited about it. We ate (well, neither of us really ate that much; I was nervous, don't know about her) and had pretty good conversation. There were a couple of short pauses in talking, but they didn't seem awkward at all to me at least.

After we were done I asked her if she'd like to go do something else. She said no, she was really tired (She'd gotten up really early for work after seeing a couple of childhood friends the night before). But she did say she wanted to hang out again.

As we got up to leave, she asked me if I'd like to go with her to look for a book (we were in a mall). Of course I did, and we wandered around there a little. We left the book store, and she asked if I'd meander with her to where she'd parked (she already knew I'd parked in the way opposite direction). I did that too and we talked more. We got to her parking garage, and she thanked me for paying dinner and said she'd try to email me today or tomorrow. This wasn't prompted or anything. I said okay, I'd talk to her later and away we went.

In the completely uninformed opinion of complete strangers, how'd I do? I'm an idiot when it comes to reading signs because I've gone out with a couple of girls that act one way but then do something else. So I guess I'm trained backaswards. Any ideas how long I should wait to call her or ask her out again?
- Brian

Dear Brian,

Don't wait to hear from her. Show some initiative. Women dig that. Email her on Monday. Keep it light, short, tell her a funny story. Don't say anything negative or clingy. (I know you won't do this but I have to mention it). Finish off the email by saying something like "How about I give you a call tomorrow night? I have something to tell you." (mystery, confidence) That thing you have to tell her could be that you can get tickets to some cool thing that you might both really want to do, ie: comedy, a concert, etc. That's all you have to do.

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