She's moving! How do I not get too attached?

Dear Brenda,

At the end of September, I met this absolutely beautiful young lady. We've gone on a couple of dates. On the first date I gave her some roses. We enjoy many activities together; the only thing is... she's moving away in December. I care a great deal about her!! My question is: How do I go about not getting too attached to her?
- david1245

Dear david1245,

Sometimes you have to follow your heart. If you think this woman is special, then you should spend as much time as you can together, because even if it doesn't work out to be a permanent thing, you will always have the warm memories to savor when you're seventy-four and sorting out your medication.

Another possibility is that she might not meet anyone she likes as well as you in her uncertain romantic future, and some how, some way, you could find a way to be together again soon. It's been known to happen. If you find that any and all dates you embark on after her departure just miss that certain "zing" you came to know when being with her, then that's a fairly clear sign that you might want to keep up the relationship, whether as a long distance affair, or just a friendship . For all you know she might feel the same "zing". At very least, you wind up staying great friends, and that's something that isn't that easy to find in this big world.

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