I'm in phone limbo - Should I wait for her call?

Dear Brenda,

I haven't had a date in about two years, mostly because I was a drunk for about two years straight, I never had money, and I didn't really care about myself. Now I've cleaned myself up, life is much brighter and I'm sort of missing having a girlfriend. I met a girl the other night that I am very attracted to. She had one of her friends come up to me and tell me that she wanted to meet me, so I went up to her and talked with her for a little while, got her number and asked her if she wanted to go out sometime - and she said yes. I called her two days later and she said she had some family over and would I be home later so she could call me back, and I said yes. Now its two days later, and I haven't called her and she hasn't called me. She's all can think about and I would really like to get to know her. Should at least give her a call one more time? The other question is, I have a crappy car. Should I just be real and take her out in it, or borrow a friends car for the first date?
- Gerard

Dear Gerard,

Congratulations on cleaning yourself up! Things are going to start to happen for you now that you've made the decision to create a better life for yourself. Regarding the woman you met at the party, of course you should call her. Women really do appreciate it when a man makes a show of effort at the beginning. And perhaps she doesn't want you to think she's pushy. You already have an idea that she's attracted to you, so go for it. Ask her out for something super romantic, like a picnic in some beautiful spot. A good deli will fix up something delicious… Regarding the car, I had a man pick me up in a rental on a first date because he was embarrassed of his own car. I didn't care, because I didn't even have a car, and I was flattered that he would try to impress me. If the car is a problem, I'd borrow the friend's car, and mention that yours is in the shop. You want to be as comfortable as possible on a first date. Good luck!

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