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Dating Disappointments
By Devlyn Steele
We all hear the term “bad dates.” There are so many stories about bad dates--funny and scary and in-between. TV shows, radio shows, websites, articles, books and more use the topic to entertain us.
As funny as these bad dates can be, there is a much more important topic that gets missed in the focus on bad dates: disappointing dates. So many people are truly trying to meet someone and when the connection is not there regardless if the date is bad or not, it can be disappointing.
In fact sometimes a date can be ok, you meet a nice person, but that attraction is just not there.
You can even get excited about someone, go on a few dates and then that kiss happens, and blank, no spark… nada! That can be more devastating than a bad date. You had such high hopes and excitement. Then the balloon pops loud.
You start questioning, “What’s the point?”
You begin to believe that you will never meet anyone.
You predict that dates will be disappointing before you go, and you go with a bad attitude.
When it is disappointing, you confirm that dating is pointless.
You stop dating.
As frustrating and disappointing as it can get at times, you cannot allow yourself to start thinking that way. Life is often a self-fulfilling prophecy. If you believe that you will never meet anyone, than that’s the attitude you project, and it will be true.
If you start a date with a bad attitude, how do you think you will connect with someone? Instead of looking at the possibilities, you will find something wrong with the person, and you can find something wrong with anyone.
If you believe that dating is pointless and stop dating, guess what? Dating will be pointless and by not dating any more you have sealed your fate. You’ll be single and staying that way, congratulations!
Don’t stop dating. Stop the thinking.
You have to approach dating with a positive attitude to achieve dating success. No matter how many disappointments, change your thinking so that every disappointing date is getting you closer to that great date. Life is often a numbers game and it is those who stay motivated who get through to the goals they want. Finding a job, an apartment or a house, the right car, and certainly the right partner is a matter of sticking with the search and staying motivated.
Stick with it and keep dating no matter what.
Stay motivated and believe that there is a point, and that it’s a journey.
Go out with a positive attitude and connect with people.
Most important, keep dating, because with the right attitude you will get through your disappointing dates to that great date you have been searching for.
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