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Dating: Conquer Fear and Rejection
As we travel through life, we often find ourselves single. We can feel frustrated and wonder, “Why am I single again?”
There are many reasons. It could be the result of meeting the wrong person, death, cheating, lies, divorce, location, goals, and more. Losing a relationship affects us in many ways--it can be quite painful, it can be entirely refreshing, or anywhere in-between. No matter what the cause or the degree of pain, there is one truth we all share: We don’t want to end up alone. We need and enjoy companionship.
The idea of going back out to look for someone can leave us feeling less than enthusiastic. In fact, often the thought of dating again creates anxiety that we may just end up in another failed relationship. In order to get into a new relationship, we have to be willing to meet and go out with people. Our own fear, however, often gets in the way.
We fear rejection.
We fear having a bad time.
We fear getting hurt.
We fear having to reject someone else.
All these fears are valid, yet easily overcome! You can conquer your fear. You have to change the way you look at it. If someone rejects you, it only means that that person feels you are not right for him or her. Believe me, there is someone else who would love to be with you. You have to accept rejection. It is only through trying we find the right person.
Many dates and relationships do not work out. You may look back and think of it as a bad time. It is all right to have a bad time. Through bad dates, we get to good dates. It is through our bad relationships we have the opportunity to learn more about ourselves and what we want. Then we can approach relationships with more knowledge of how to succeed. No one wants to get hurt but if we do not dare to fall in love and possibly get hurt, we will never be in love. Getting hurt is part of the process. We do get through it and the pain does go away. The best part is there is new love waiting for you.
You may also be fearful of rejecting someone. The truth is no one is obligated to stay with someone who is not the right someone. Rejection is part of the dating and relationship process.
Change how you look at rejection. See it as a favor. When you reject someone, you release that person to go find someone who will truly appreciate him or her. Look at it that way also, when someone rejects you. After all, do you really want to be with someone who does not want to be with you? It’s better to be free to go find someone who actually can’t wait to be with you.
Can you predict the future? I can’t. In fact, most of us realize we cannot. Yet we continue to believe self-limiting thoughts about the future. We believe so firmly in these thoughts we allow them to stop us from moving forward and realizing more opportunities.
Instead of predicting pain or a bad time, I can predict for you that if you embrace the dating process, rather than watching life pass you by, you will have both good and bad times. I can also predict that these good and bad times will lead you to even better times.
Change the way you think, and you will change your life. So get excited and embrace the journey!
Release and conquer your fear. New and great dates are out there for you.
Devlyn Steele
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