Let's Meet There
Separate vehicles. Drive to a girlfriends or coffee shop to meet a friend immediately after to ensure they don't follow you. Never be persuaded to put them up for a night if they live out of town. to save on hotel charges. It usually does materialize in sexual relations and if they never call you again, you beat yourself up over and over again. Thanks.
Have a double date or meet in a public place.
Comment from Candy
When meeting someone for the first time I feel safe if it’s in a public area (coffee shop, book store, bowling alley, restaurant). Meeting in the daytime in my opinion is smart., especially if you drove to an unfamiliar area to greet them.
Comment from chessmaster315
Nancy, Thanks for the tip for women, but what about us men? Men, you need to begin setting a standard of excellence RIGHT HERE. You do this by assuming this woman you are about to meet IS of excellent character. Don't ask to meet her in the back of your van! Instead, HONOR HER by assuming she is a highly respected woman, and OFFER to meet her in a place that is SAFE for her, such as a public place. In the same way, MAKE HER feel comfortable with you by NOT asking her address/phone number. If she is attracted to you, she will want you to have her phone number at the appropriate time when she feels safe.
Comment from Prettychicky
Make sure they look like their pictures. a lot of them look nothing like their picture and that has been the biggest downfall on dating on the internet!! I now usually ask to see more pictures or subtly question them about their photos as to when they were taken and how much they really look like them. I am fed up with people lying about their looks!!
Comment from Helenicprncess
Always drive yourself!!!!
Comment from The Rambling Man 2 you !
One thing that can pop up that should be watched carefully, and maybe avoided altogether, is: Try not to offer a first date, that lives within a day or two's drive (commonly called a "Drive-Up"), the option to "Stay the night (or weekend) over." As opposed to booking a room at a local motel or hotel. Not only will this spare the uncomfortable position of "pressured sex" on the first meeting, but it may also prevent a "Social Leech" from claiming that he or she has "nowhere to return home to", and lay claim to what might be referred to as "squatter’s rights"!
Comment from AGH
I agree about having an end-time on the date - meet for a cup of coffee or a lunchtime drink and make it clear that you only have one hour before you need to get back to work. If you click there is always the next date to look forward to!
Comment from noir02
This is a great article. The sex stuff is real but not always in Africa. yeah, you get to know someone in a day, goes to her house but won't allow you make sex advances being the first time. Meanwhile sex happens at times but not in all cases. THANKS.
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