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Musts for Better Sex
Comment from debmccoy40
You need to be totally in touch with your partner. What makes him happy, will definitely make you happy. I let him be the aggressor, then switch and I'm the aggressor. We are both always open for new idea's and we do not discuss them, we just begin acting and we'll tell each other if we do not like or want it. In fact, the only time he was embarrassed about what I was doing, I had to laugh at him to break the ice (which it did), then 2 months later, he asked me to do that "thing" again. It is definitely a 2-way street. If both of you give it everything you want and feel, you will have the time of your life.
Comment from jstacat
Be in love, with one at a time. You won't be distracted, and it will mean something. Your whole being will be free to give :)
Comment from maxxxxd
Look deep into her eyes and whisper sweet comments about her and how she makes you feel.
Comment from fun4u2eat2
Personally, I don't think you should let "the spice" go out of your relationship at all. Then you don't have to worry about "re-spicing" it. It's sad how a lot of us as couples seem to forget about that "tingly" .."Twiterpated" feeling we had when we first got together. My goal has been to try not to ever loose that. We as humans have a tendency to get comfortable and complacent as the relationship goes on. I think a lot of that has to do with busy life styles, work, kids, etc. Yes it takes work and thought to not let the flame dwindle but it's better than finding out she's having an affair because you don't pay enough attention to her. Some of the things I have done in past relationships are...Draw my girl friend a bath with bath oil in it. Light some candles, put on some relaxing music then hop in the tub with her, massage her feet, bathe her, wash her hair and massage her head. No. You can't do her while your in the tub guys ! ! ....It's suppose to be "all about her". Another time I had an empty vase sent to her at work, then an hour later I sent half a dozen roses, another hour later another half dozen roses and I continued that until I had sent her two dozen roses. Not only did she love it , but it drove the other girls in the office crazy with jealousy ! ! I have left romantic cards telling her how much I loved her and appreciated her in her bathroom for no particular reason. Another time I built a fire in the fireplace, laid down a soft blanket, lit some candles, put on some music (are you starting to see a pattern here ? ) warmed up a bottle of baby oil in the microwave, had her undress, lay down in front of the fire and gave her a head to toe massage. No guys ..Even tho' it's very hard your not suppose to do her during this one either ! ! Unless she wants you to :-) remember .It's suppose to be "all about her". With this kind of attention and treatment for your one and only lady I will guarantee you she will respond with the same kind of "spice" and surprises for you. I guess a good rule of thumb would be "put yourself on the other side of the fence". Think up something that you would like her to do for you and then "do it for her instead". As I sit here and write this I can't help but ask myself. Why don't I have a girlfriend right now ? ? ! !
Comment from hot_bi_tx_girl
We like to role play. It adds to trying new things to our relationship. Plus, it lets us pretend without cheating on the other one. Dressing up also breaks the monotony in our relationship.
Comment from skiandance
Lots of talking, like you are soon hot and you turn me on so much, I could not wait to touch you, on you get the picture. My partner always is turned on by talking too.
Comment from bpauly2001
Use of my tongue and hands with no limitations to provide stimulation to my partner for as long as he encourages and responds positively to what is happening.
Comment from christoffer
My secret of spicing up a relationship isn't much of a secret but common sense. Devoting time and effort, love and compassion, and most of all each other into a relationship. The more time you spend together outside the bed, the more you'll both enjoy underneath the covers.
Comment from realracer1
Openness is the key. You have to be willing to forget about yourself for a while. When I make love I focus all of my energy on what my partner is experiencing and feeling. I try to be sensitive to what turns her on and what doesn't. That is also the best part about exploring her entire body. You can read what she is feeling as you move from zone to zone and learn what turns her on the most.
Comment from shahid
My penis does not get erect I used to masturbate in childhood. Is there any one who could teach me techniques to have super erection.
Comment from !Knightly
I pick up dinner from her favorite deli, wine in the frig, candles lit. Welcome her into the private garage parking with a great hug and kiss, followed by more kissing in the elevator up to my condo, holding her close arms wrapped around her waist, can't wait to get her behind my door, once inside, pull her close and give her a deep kiss, slowly take her top off, enjoy her breast, slowly kiss my way down as I remove her g string feeling her sweetness as I drink it in, I pick her up as I continue to give her oral pleasure, take her to the bedroom , tongue still deeply feeling and tasting her sweetness, slowly kissing my way back to her lips and penetrating her slowly with my cock, she accepts me deep and I stay there feeling her muscles pulling on me deep inside we breath deeply together as we continue to push into each other, deep we push slow deep and with desire I pull out at the last minute for her to feel me to explode deep into her mouth, too much to swallow, it flows all over her face, we press together with a great kiss as we exchange the wetness together, omg nothing feels as good as this. She is very special and she loves it also.
Comment from subbgirrl
I let my imagination run wild. I do things and say things that most people would find odd, if it were ever discussed openly that is. Example: my ex b/f loved to be called daddy, in a little girls voice. Now, as perverse or wrong as that may seem in normal discussion, it really, really heated things up for us. It was kind of fun in an odd way. Believe me, it was never something I had considered doing until I found out how much it turned him on. So, go wild with it, do the unthinkable, it's your bedroom, enjoy it!
The little things, a rose or flower here and there, a oddly placed kiss at an odd moment, writing poetry for my significant other. Etc.
Comment from dakota6girl
Focus on your partner and observe what works for them. Let them have the pleasure of being totally satisfied while nothing is expected from them in return. Your "return" will be far greater than dreamed. Trust me on this and try it next time. Xoxo
Comment from rene3d
Have a partner! :)
Comment from arnold
A warm soapy shower together, as foreplay or just a nice way to get close, falls in second to oral sex, only, sensitive feet or elbows are bonuses, a coupe that enjoys anal sex knows and trusts each other well.
Comment from flowtrebor (hugs and cuddles a must)
Attitude is most important, but mastering the art of making love is something that is achieved with age and experience. There are no graduate degree courses in this so don't look for them in the catalog. Either you have the capabilities to become a great lover or you don't.(Emotional levels, physical freedom, open mindedness, etc.) anyone who attempts to make love and doesn't practice the aspects of clinical and romantic massage, caressing, and possess a totally open mind concerning their partner shouldn't be considering having sex .
Comment from patrick
I always go to the gym, after a hard workout I am sometimes lucky to find a suitable guy for me. He usually laughs when I take my shirt off because he said I'm not broley like I claim to be, then when I take my pants off its roller coasters for everyone.
Comment from cubanterror22
Letting the girl speak her mind in an argument, and when times are good. She will feel heard, loved and cared, and befriended. Also, always support and be understanding, even when you don't want to be. These two will have her doing anything for you, but don't take advantage of this! It had all better be out of love for her, real love.
Comment from rle78
The last time I thought that the spice had expired in my relationship, I took my man out on the town to a nice dinner where we could both get dressed up and look nice. I took extra time to look good, even got my hair done. We ran into old friends and when we got home I lit candles and rubbed his back and shoulders and made sure to include lots of little things, attentive, caring, loving things, and he seemed revived and we got out of the slump.
Comment from robbbenn
I don't have a relationship, that's my problem.
Quick sex quotes, on the computer, texting on the phone, calling and saying meet me now
Comment from darkchild
I think that when your having sex you should also play with the hair, breath on the neck, and try different movements.
Comment from hotfires4me
You are right about passing up the usual spots, try playing with the feet, and mainly the toes. Try licking and sucking the toes, it can be better than sex itself, and will definitely make the sex 10 times better. But it's one of those things you have to practice to do it right, but keep at it, it's well worth it.
Comment from c00perb0y
It's in the eyes. Before bedtime, look at your lover straight in the eyes, lowering your lids and giving her/him the most sensual stare you can deliver. (Do it more than once!) this erotic stimulation is done without even a touch, but means a lot of touching later on.
Don't be afraid to experiment. Try something new. I don't say no. I was married for 22 years he was my first after he left I went no holds bar and haven't regretted a thing. I just don't say no and have had an amazing time.
Comment from spells
Blind folds are great for the first or second "session". It allows you to use your all your senses. Play soft music--I prefer jazz- and scented candles and you are on your way. Ps have your partner tell you where to touch and kiss. This is the move for the bedroom.
Comment from hugmee
Taking time out of actual sex to spend time on the neglected areas like the article said the feet. But also the neck, waistline, back, arms, and you will be surprised that sometimes even the wrist and hand are a good place to turn your attention. It is a good practice to explore the certain areas that your partner is most sensitive. Trust me it works every time.
Comment from arielbatog
Visiting our dating places when we were not yet married and recalling the things we did.
Teasing the body to increase pleasure and being creative with my tongue
Comment from sanjji
Don't hesitate to try something new in love making, exploring things for you to enjoy are very important in a healthy relationships.
Comment from lee
I thank you are right about rubbing and touching every part of the body and not neglecting any part, and every body loves back messages and feet messages. I like to kiss around the back of the neck around the ear lobes, I enjoy touching or rubbing any part of a woman's body. I usably start kissing around the neck area then I moved down to the breast area were I do spiral circles around her nipples and breast.
Comment from alexis
I always wonder about other guys but never wander because I know how empty and shameful id feel after a one night stand or any other interaction that didn't take up way too much time. If it took the same effort id be in the same situation I'm in now with my current long time interest. Instead I choose not to cheat and to still not miss out on the best part about finding someone new, the flirting. So I go out. With or without a girlfriend in tow and I flirt all I want even pretend that it will go somewhere in my thoughts. I get so excited about the new chemistry and then I just take that sizzle home with me like a hormone to go box and I'm never disappointed with the end result: laying in bed in the arms of the man that adores me and who I love very much. No cheating, no STDs, no empty shame in the morning. Just add a little naughty harmless energy. That's my secret.
Comment from cmilemooni
It has valid point and highly effective for those people who on the first instance, do not like the touching of genitals. Especially in the conservative societies or in some of the Asian countries, girls do not like that their breasts are touched as first step towards the love making. They like that you play around and only touch these parts later during the play.
Comment from ajijedidun
It is nice to read out lovely poems to your honey, because my Lola enjoys when it is read to ,but she has four more years to finish her education in which I can not wait. Am 32,she is 21.
Comment from kabamas
Gently rubbing my partners ears while lovemaking.
Comment from resolute1
I know that many have used toys, ice, whip cream, chocolate syrup, and all types of food to spice up a sexual encounter. What really turns a woman on is a mans breath panting on them. Panting ( not touching ) on their lips, face cheeks, ears, breasts, stomach, back , legs and the like. Also saying ummmmm a lot. A woman loves that.
Comment from sunny
Sometimes people have a hard time vocalizing their desires and fantasies to one another. I've found a way to overcome that, by placing a small notebook in a drawer. When we have separate alone time, we write in the notebook our thoughts, desires, feelings, and return the pad to the drawer to be read by the other. It's become a very special journal and guide, for both of us...One long, amazing "love letter", if you will.
Comment from Antonio
Enrichment, for all. Thank you.
Comment from lovegod
Getting my partner to rub my velvety bell end of the erect penis up and down her clit to make her cum before penetration. I would have course, previously used my tongue on the clit outside while my fingers were simultaneously rubbing the g-spot on the front internal wall of her vagina.
Comment from bencanan
I agree with the article , but in the point of view of my girlfriend , she consider a "good" when she has up to 3 orgasms. Within 30 minutes..That's all. Thanks .
Comment from jon945
Slow touch, slow hand, smooth talk, sparkling wine, sensitive feeling
Comment from redthor77
When making love to a women think "i am the iceberg - powerful, immense, and slowly but purposefully moving forward to the inevitable." Even if she doesn't get hers, she'll appreciate your long-lasting effort.
Comment from louis_donatus
Well, right from the topic of the article 'musts for better sex' exactly what i expected is what I've just seen. Advancing to romance up to 30min before sex. I think that is even more exciting than the intercourse itself.
Comment from caligirl20
I like to try something new every now and then to keep things interesting. Maybe once a week or 3 times a month, either get a book and check it these times or go to an adult store and buy something kinky and/or erotic.
Comment from turbopal
If you enjoy the scent off your partner, talk about it during sex. Make sure your partner knows this admiration also.
Comment from ahga
while making love do not ask personal life details of your partner in depth particularly if your partner is a lady. This will bother her. Her attention can be diverted from love resulting dismay. Consider her presences with you as an good opportunity and nice friendship.
Comment from josif
It good article but should be explain more about the sex and different casesð
Comment from khoulio
playing on body temperature is another one big factor! For example take some minutes of break during having sex to cool down your partner's genital area by using a piece of ice! Yeah trust me this can be a cool thing to do because it gives you a boost to start all over again which makes your orgasm take longer to be reached and much more enjoyable!
Comment from bikerrod
there are times, for god knows what reason, I get extreme orgasms and I come to too early. The feeling is just so fantastic that I just want lie back, enjoy and savor it as long as I can. Trouble is there is a lady beside me wondering where the party's gone to. Over time I have discovered that the only thing that arouses me back to action is a blow job. Then I'm off and it stays up. Sometimes its still hard when my back won't take any more and hour later. My secret is : I have found its best to tell the lady before we start to make love. This has worked absolute wonders for me and my ladies. So all you guys that are a bit on the quiet side. Speak out an tell your woman what your needs are. Its well worth it, for your both.
Comment from jsek1
being loving thoughtful, caring about what my partner feels. Making the act of sex a mutual thing and not about myself thing. Being pleased with my partners pleasure, and giving them more
My comment about this article is that I appreciate it. I've learnt 4rom it and i'll like to know more. Especially the sensitive part of the body. Thanks
Comment from sdally
variety is the biggest thing to making sure that its enjoyable. You want something different sometimes to keep you on your toes. Passion is the greatest thing to making love or sex. Finding our hotspots are a big tip off and its just way to easy. You can hit one of those and get us going no problem but what about those spots that take a little time. The ones that are hard to find and take time to tease. Taking your time to tease will make thing's last longer and will be the most enjoyable.
Comment from forrest77
pay attention to body language!!
Comment from enigma41
in my experience the best sex is achieved when each partner is focused on pleasuring the other partner. This sharing approach develops into a reciprocal enjoyment which quickly moves to a much higher level of sensual pleasure than the "me, me, me" focus of those with lesser sq's (sensual quotients). Somehow one's own pleasure is heightened when the focus is on the other person. I know this sounds contradictory but it isn't. It really works. And gender is not a factor.
Comment from yogibear101
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Comment from finetouchtips
I call it from head to toe. Normally people think you should work with the middle of the body, but, I feel that the senses start relaxing more and your able to perform better for your special partner if you touch their head and massage it (scalp)then the face and ears and work all down the body to the feet the back up to the middle. By this time they are warmed up and you have completely melted there insides.
Being romantic and making love. I love to explore her body with my hands, not just to the more private areas, but all over her body right down to her feet. Then kiss her allover her body from the feet up.
Comment from pankajkumar
Hi, at first we should like the nature & behaviour of the partner and then we love them very much from deep of the heart. Otherwise it is similar to paid service purchased in the market.
Comment from mcgood
Sharon. So what do ya think about dat, guess not d in-thing 4 us presently. Nevertheless we could still achieve even beyond dat. But do you really believe I miss you a great deal, please try make it up wit me. When I tell you dat I like u--- I mean natural likeness dat goes beyond frequently used word===love. But luv you 2
Comment from beingwhiteissexy
I have a major foot fetish and for starters I need someone who understands and appreciates that and is eager to kick off her footwear whenever the opportunity arises. I also enjoy the sensation of being barefoot when the opportunity presents itself. So probably the first stimulus for me is if, at a dinner date, she plays footsies with me under the table barefoot. Naturally this is more difficult during winter but I would want her to be wearing open-toed sandals she can slip off easily. of course when we get back to one of our places, we take off our footwear and get comfortable and then she can make me the sex-slave and make me do whatever she wants - including kissing the bottom of her feet and sucking her toes. The other secret to spicing up the sex-life is simply taking life easy and being carefree. Obviously not everyone has the luxury of enjoying that, but if you do, you should take advantage. I've come to the conclusion that there is really nothing wrong in being a little priviledged and spoiled if it eases you and makes you a more relaxed and sexy person. Yes, my family's rich and I've always made my life a big party... flunked out of college in the process. But I've grown comfortable in my own skin and understand that's who I am. So I make sure I level with a new woman in my life the 1st day - not try to make her think I'm a big shot and let her know that it's a big family inheritance that I mainly enjoy with the little bit of money I make from the family business. I am just who I am and it feels great and I usually think that if she's down-to-earth, she can appreciate me because I like to keep an open mind. So this attitude and the mutual foot-worship acts definitely spice up my sex-life.
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