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Tips for Showing a Man You like Him without Going Overboard
Comment from Fancyfeet50
Absolutely; doesn't that also make them feel useful like mentioned in the article. Men are better at helping with concrete problems, rather than emotional ones.
Comment from happylady02
Not yet, but it sounds like a great tip. I'll try it!!
Comment from tutucute
All the time! Haha! One time I was in class and noticed a really attractive guy sitting in front of me. I couldn't think of anything clever to get his attention at first, so I just checked him out from time to time while the teacher was talking. On the way out, however, I knew it was now or never. So, even though I was wearing a watch, I pushed it up in the sleeve of my coat and asked him if he had the time. He smiled and responded, and we started a conversation, which led to a few months of dating after that!
Comment from Game studier
I've asked guys opinion on the dumbest and most serious things. It allows me to know their mind what to expect from him and if he's worth my time. Well knowing what's on his mind matters is the key or at least what he wants.....Ladies keep him happy or some other chick will!
Comment from Irma
Yes, a wonderful experience, also learned a few handy things that I later put into practice. I had met this man online, chatting, and I had been telling him that I had no time for a date because I was in the process of moving and needed to put a lot of stuff in place in my new home and I asked him if he knew someone who could come and help me install my washer and dryer, put curtains up, frames, rearrange furniture in my bedroom. Well, he said, if I had no problem, he would come help me. He was a wonderful helper, knowledgeable, fast, needless to say, after the hard work he was very well rewarded. We dated for about six months. He is a very special person.
Comment from M.C. Rees
yes, we some years later were having our first and only child together and shortly afterwards married, although we were not meant for one another meeting in this way was a starting point for what could have been a life long relationship.
Comment from lorena_glover2001
Yes, I was moving and I asked if he could help me. I figured if he was interested he'd say yes and if not, no. He ended up helping me and a year latter we were married. Our marriage didn't last but I still remember those courtship days and how beautiful they were, even if it didn't last.
Comment from Beachbunny_2003
Yes. I made up a story about having problems with an ex-boyfriend who won't leave me alone and is always trying to get back with me. He gave me a lot of great advice. We started talking about relationships and the topic moved from there to if I was single or not. When I told him that I was and was looking, he asked if I would be interested in meeting him for a movie or a cup of coffee.
Comment from cassieannie
I asked a guy to be my cub scout assistant, because I liked him, and our kids are the same age. It worked for awhile until he decided he wasn't interested even after all the flirting he did.
Comment from shesspecial
I once asked a man to come over and connect the water to my refrigerator that I disconnected so I could ask. It worked and we dated for a while after.
Comment from isiskay
Absolutely! Asking a guy how to do something I know he has expertise in is a great way to stroke his ego & spend some one-on-one time with him. Plus, when he's working on something he's really comfortable with, he's too busy to be nervous.
Comment from dkc42553
Yes, I know the ins and outs of cars to a degree but I decided to ask a guy -----how much air should I have in my car tires and let him take care of showing you how to check air pressure and if needs air how to do it. no hot air being wasted here!
Comment from tslagivail
Well of course..act dumb and they fall all over you to help..lol..works every time.
Comment from lavarn
Once in life I try so and I thank god coz it worked. I got to the guy better n we got a long . we figure it out that we had so much in common. and things worked out the way we both want
Comment from lildyme
yes I have and then after asking him for help we became friends then we became a couple.
Men like to feel needed. They feel good about themselves when they know a woman values his opinions, or needs advice.
Comment from cassandra686
No, but yesterday on my day off. Which I rarely get. I work a lot 6 days a week .And I am a medical student as well. I had a problem with my computer. Later in the afternoon. I needed assistance on fixing the mouse pad during our conversation. We had a pleasant conversation. Early in the morning. He is overseas now. We haven't met yet in person. But spoke to one another for 5 months now. Jason & I are just trying to get to know each other. Being in the army is difficult. He won't be back in the states till June /05.But I feel I wanted his help on the computer, plus I didn't feel like dumping my problems on him. He seemed irritable ,tired from his mission. I just don't like bringing up every crisis that comes up. My whole morning was fine till the afternoon. So I don't want him to lose interest in me. Because of this. Plus I don't think he could help me it was in the hands of a computer technician. To solve this. We were speaking to each other on the yahoo messenger when this occurred. I had him on voice chat. Before my computer went down. However I managed to catch him online later in the evening, but he couldn't find any words to say .Except that I had problems come up which was beyond my control. I was looking forward to an ok day off ,but I don't know what else to do.?He also could not hear me on voice chat either. I hope that I didn't push him away? Help?
Yes. I know a little about car maintenance but I pretended not to know so much when I was interested in this guy that worked on cars as a side business. I had some minor problems with my car so I used that reason to see this guy. We went together for 5 years and had a son together.
Comment from tntdlght
I had a thing for this guy, Alan, but he was the shy, quiet type. I knew that he liked me by the way he kept stealing glances at me when he thought no one would notice. He was very sweet and kind, by all accounts, and I wanted to get to know him better. I knew that he was an electrician by trade, and I had just gotten a surround sound system for Christmas. Now, I am a very capable woman and would have had no problem hooking it up, but I decided to use it to my advantage. I had it all planned out. I waited until he sat down at potluck dinner, one Wednesday, and chose a seat near him. I made sure that I was close enough that he'd hear everything I said, but not close to where he'd think I did it on purpose. I steered the conversation toward Christmas and brought up my "problem." Casually, I asked Alan if he knew anything about that type of thing, maybe he could give me some pointers. He REALLY opened up. Apparently, he knew A LOT. I said I was going to try to hook it up the following Saturday, and asked him if he wouldn't mind swinging by and giving me a hand, since I thought it would be "way too complicated and I could never do it myself." He took the bait. When he got to my house, I made sure that I had dinner cooking so that I could offer to thank him by feeding him. Of course, I had cooked "far to much food for just one person". After some coaxing, he finally agreed and we had a wonderful dinner and conversation. We have been together for 3 years now and have recently become engaged. To this day, I still let him deal with anything electronic. If you ask him, he'll say, "she can't even set the clock on the VCR." I just nod and smile in agreement.
Comment from ACGinFL
All the time. it really does work. and I usually reward his labor with some kind of food. served after as a reward. nothing fussy, no candlelight dinner. just something quick whipped up in about a half hour when he's putting the power tools back in his car/truck. Some cold bottled beer, a quick pasta and veggie dish, soup and sandwich. get the idea?
Comment from my_ maintenance _hottie
Yes! I actually did this a couple of days ago. My heater in my apartment froze and it was really cold, so I called the maintenance guy out to fix it for me. When he came to the door..oh my God! He was one of the most attractive men I've ever seen. While he was fixing my heater, we chatted about everything, it was a sort-of flirty conversation and we laughed and talked the whole time. I knew he wasn't married and he never said anything about a girlfriend and dropped a couple of hints that he was single. Well, he temporarily fixed the problem but, there was a short somewhere and he said he would have to come back the next day to fix it. Unfortunately, he was too busy making up the workload from the previous day so, he never made it back to my apartment yesterday. So (and I hope this isn't going overboard), I left a note attached to the thermostat just saying "thank you for your help and if you're ever bored and want to hang out, to give me a call." I hope that doesn't run him off, but I just couldn't help myself. This morning when I was leaving for work, he almost ran out in front of my car, so, hopefully that will remind him of my heater problem and he will return today to fix it. I'll find out when I get off work. This is the first time I've ever asked for a guy's help to get to know him better and hopefully, it will be worth the embarrassment of the little note.
Comment from Skeeterwoo
One time, I changed a working light bulb that was outside in a difficult to reach spot, to a broken one. I then proceeded to call the guy I was interested in to see if he could come help me change the light bulb. The rest of the evening was much brighter with him around!
Yes I once needed a ride home and asked him for a ride after work he gave it and we shared our first kiss at my door.
Comment from SISSEE01
I once asked a guy for help started my car because "No matter what I did, it wouldn't start" Turned out the bolt holding the battery wires in place had come loose. HMMMM..wonder how that happened. :)
Comment from intelady
Yes. I have in my past pretended that I needed a guy to do something for me that I really didn't need done or need that soon. Also I could have done it myself or had someone else other than him do it for me. I have done this many times. I just wanted to get to see him and be near him, alone.
Comment from Char_c_h
I asked this guy about my car before, but my dad taught me how to be more then the average mechanic and I am a serious tom boy w/ electronics. I did not tell the guy I have a minor in Engineering either.
Comment from Damsel in Distress?
Oh yes. All my life. In high school, I asked this guy I had a crush on to help me with my Math problem. Eventually he liked me, but I realised he wasn't the one for me. I had this superhunk of a neighbour and asked him to help me move some of the furniture in my house. In college, I asked for guitar lessons from this cute guy who was really good with guitars.
Yes, I asked him to help me program something on my VCR - he still asks me if everything is ok and I tell him - it's perfect..The smile on his face is wonderful.
Comment from bodaciousb
yes I did..I actually at work was using a company van. after I returned it. I went back to my area of work then came up with the idea of pretending I lost my cell phone. I went back to the vehicle area and just as I pulled up "dan"was walking out I said excuse me and I proceeded to ask him if he could go look in the van I was in to see if my phone was in it..the poor guy was out there for ten minutes searching for my phone when all along it was in my pocket (thank goodness it never rang!!!!) it turned out he had a girlfriend at the time but we have been great friends ever since....he still doesn't know about the cell phone though hahaha.
Comment from japhina_01
Yes. This guy was really good with cars and my car had a lot of problems so I asked him if he would change my spark plugs for me. So I went over to his house and saw him all greasy and dirty, it was such a turn on. Watching him bend over my car wasn't a bad sight either. It was nice to see him doing something that he was really into and it allowed him to relax, so I got to know him a better. It was a fun time, and it ended with a kiss goodbye.
Comment from sexyinvb
Yes! And he always responds, but I don't take it no father then business. But feel he want to have it a little more personal, but I don't know how?
Comment from jessica
I have asked a guy I liked if I could borrow his VCR because I had just moved into my new apartment and didn't have one. In reality I did, but just wanted an excuse for him to come over. It worked and we ended up dating.
Comment from Montoney_6
sometimes even when I know how to do something I call up a guy to come help me!!!!!
Comment from sexxkitten02
Yes I have and I will do it again a New York minute. Just haven't met the man that I can trust.
Yes and lot of times it works.
Comment from classic lady 03
The last date I had, I asked him to help with reconnecting my vcr, he complained that I should be smart enough to do it myself.
Comment from > K / Sh <
Help!! the word that I hate to ask for anyone, anyway I missed my boyfriend forever and very soon!! we both had proud character unfortunately, he wanted me to" help him" and I helped then I got the picture that what he wanted to express, his major problem was this that he never talked and he expected me to talk!! but I HAVE also a silent character!!!! So soon very soon we started intercourse, and once without speaking at all ! so that it drove me crazy and I told him that I won`t meet him anymore. He didn`t call me anymore and it finished. We both are university graduated. I hope you have better experiences. Yes, even if I already had the ability to do for myself. Find that men would rather teach then be taught.
Comment from Marshy15
yes, I did once..its the time when I was suppose to go to a province and I ask him if he could accompany me, and he said yes. Eventually we didn't end up going to the province we end up going to the mall and talk to him for several hours. Another thing is he didn't let me pay for anything I was surprised for I did not expect him for all the things I wanted. By that instance I found out that I can depend or rely on him whenever I want to and he is so generous.
Comment from harmony2
Yes, It is not only a good pick up line, but a "good in" to get to know the neighbours.(Most likely the have had to change the lite bulb too!)
Comment from carrollfroggiee
It only works on men who really like you or care about you. I had asked my boyfriend to help me with car things, etc.and we were on the way to breaking up and he would not help me. But, this new guy I met is eager to come and help me hook up my DVD player and I really need his help and I hope it's because he likes me that he's helping me.
Comment from peppermintpatti
Oh yes. Men don't mind women being a little helpless - they love being helpful in all things mechanical.
Comment from -A Man's perspective
"If he e-mails or texts you after your date to say what a nice time he had, respond in kind. But keep it short, and if he sends you another message, don't answer the second one." If this is a tip on showing a man you're interested, I'd say you're going to find yourself lonely for no reason. If a woman is short with her response and lacking with a second, most men can only assume that they are NOT interested and that they're wasting their time. Like most women, most men have no time for games; if you enjoyed yourself, say so. Respond to emails and show interest. If you're not interested, use Lauren's advice!
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