Conversation starters What's appropriate, what's not?

Comment from GodsCowboy
Sounds pretty good. One of the safest talking topics might be related to how you met. You both have something in common there, so why not exploit it. Talk about that topic whenever you can. Example: If you met rollerblading, ask what kind of skates he/she likes, Where else they go rollerblading, How long they've been doing it? The worst fall, the most fun, how hard it was to learn?
If you met doing something you really enjoyed and he/she does too, I bet you'll both find lots of great stories to tell about that activity at that place and other places like it.

Comment from larryw
You can talk about goals, music types, and good places to eat .Show that you are more willing to give and do for others, and that you are grateful for the blessings that have come your way. Movies that you would like to see or places you might like to visit in the future. Share your values Colors your fond of and animals you like or dislike and abilities to a point.

Comment from gendress
I would agree not to discuss how many babies you want to have - but I think it should be discussed fairly early *if* you want babies at all. I'm childfree-by-choice and for me it's a deal breaker if a guy I'm dating wants kids in the future - so I try and bring it up sooner rather than later.

Comment from bjsparkle28
Ask what his/her favorite games were as a kid. Share dumb things you used to do, or some toy that was popular that you wanted and never got. Etch-a-Sketch. Share a good memory of a birthday party, or...you get the idea. Admit if you were a dork in high school or some trend you feel silly about doing, now. I think it's endearing conversation.

Comment from MaineGirl
Talk about your job in a pleasant way, but don't praise yourself. Don't act as if you are in a job interview. Give her an idea of the person you are. But don't over do it. Talk about movies, books, music. One of these three usually always works for me! Talk about your pet if you have one. Tell her a funny story that recently happened to you. Make her laugh, but avoid dirty jokes. Try cute jokes. Tell her about some childhood adventure. I found that always interesting in case I liked the man whom I dated. Hope this will be helpful.

Comment from Lone-star
Hi, I'm so shy when it comes to women. I was wondering how the best way to ask someone out is? How to read whether someone is interested in being asked out...Etc.

Comment from womaninlove
I agree totally with Brenda's advice; when the interest and chemistry is there you don't have to worry too much about gaps in the conversation or even if you said something awkward ... because the atmosphere should be relaxed and you can't be perfect. When you don't put too much pressure, things go better. The list about topics that should be avoided during first dates is very good.

Comment from carebear
Hey parker relax most of the time a good listener says more than a good talker but before you decide to make a date you must find out if you have anything in common. So ask her what she likes to do what kind of music she likes , what kind of food she likes, any kind of sport she likes to watch or play does she like to dance swim , people watching does she like to go for walks camping cars wear have you traveled where did you go to school .Just remember to listen show honest enthusiasm in what she has to say and the best way to make easy conversation is to do things on a date that way you can talk about what your doing even if its just a walk in the park you can talk about the weather play on the swings talk about things that happened when you were kids sit on the grass look for four leaf clovers find out what kind of chocolate she likes do things be yourself then she can be herself, Get to know each other there nothing harder than trying to talk to someone you like but don't know anything about . Don't make a job out of it talk to her like she's your friend I bet you don't have any trouble talking to one of your guy friends if you truly show her or anybody that you're interested in them and what they have to say, conversation about everything and anything will be just fine. Good luck, you'll do just fine.

Comment from karina
I do think that the PERFECT topics you can talk about during a date are the ones which are nice, pleasing, interesting, exciting to you and your partner both, if you two share topics you really love, you are enjoying this moment, so that hours will go faster and you would have had good time together. That's a fantastic start for a date! Do you think so? You will surely feel so so so fine exchanging opinions, ideas, thoughts and interests that sometimes can be common in you. This is the way friendship could become relationship in the future. Well, there's so many topics to share while taking Brenda's advice and mine too. I'm sure you will succeed in your next date Good luck!

Hey Parker, People are interested in themselves! Who is the first person you look for in a photo of your old class from high school? YOU, of course! So my advice is to keep the conversation about THEM, they will think you are the most interesting and fascinating person on the world if you show interest in who they are and where they have been. Ask her all kinds of questions - where has she traveled to, what is her favorite movie, what kinds of shoes and clothes does she like, does she think having friends is important, what her life was like growing up, does she have brothers or sisters, anything! And act TOTALLY fascinated - as if she is the most interesting and special person in the world! Be totally riveted by what she is saying. She will LOVE you in no time!!! -Kerry

Wow you are so smart, but seriously best advice is if you just cant feel you can talk to here and you hit a dead and chances are it wont last.

Comment from Degoldenman
*Dial up her attraction for you by teasing her (good sense of humor),
*Stop acting needy / clingy
*Talk about fashion, hair styles, and famous personalities like actresses, musicians etc and also carry magazines on these issues.
*Create suspense and anticipation while talking
*Tell her interesting stories
*Don't pay her too much compliments
Don't be bothered about the silence; your major interest is to dial up her attraction for you. When you achieve this she will feel at ease and would even come up with interesting topics hence flow freely with you. When chemistry and interest is created, you can even use the silence to your advantage because she would be wondering what is going on in your mind (suspense/anticipation).

Comment from Dollie
If what to talk about is a problem, maybe guys and gals should let each other know whether they are a person who likes to talk, listen, or just chill out together watching a movie or preparing a meal together. You can learn a lot about each other without probing direct questions. You can understand a person's values by allowing them to gradually disclose themselves while enjoying non-threatening activities. A movie may bring up a period of time in their life, an actor they admire, a situation they might be in, or the characters they relate to--this could lead to more conversation about how you relate to the comments that are made. The same is true about getting together in the kitchen--it could instigate conversation about favorite foods, which their favorite cook is, memories of events having to do with food. But of course, if the person doesn't like movies or preparing meals together, then you will have to get very creative to determine what mutual activities help you feel relaxed and comfortable with each other so that conversation will come naturally.

Comment from pricetag69
Take it slow and easy.
I agree with Brenda that if the two meeting are compatible. It will go as smooth as a sewing machine. The conversation will not have to be something dreamt up. Excuse my English!
I have, at times, clicked and it just wasn't meant to be. Other people were involved at the time which made it impossible to really be a couple. The experience was very gratifying in it's self. I believe that would be the true connection! Few and far between for me. The two of us had to have someone interrupt the conversation for us to stop. Which was like the water being turned off while taking a shower. Very disappointing. Those are the special times!!

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