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Rite of Passage
Comment from sadjustice
I understand that it is hard for gay teens to get the respect that other teens get, cause I was one of them. I think if any teen heterosexual can bring their dates then any gay or lesbian teen has the right to bring their dates as well. If they can't realize that the world has so much cuture and differences, then they are just ****s with great ignorance...
Comment from PinksSoSexy
I am a lesbian female who is now 22. At the time of my senior high school prom I took my girlfriend to my prom with me. We were not the only gay/lesbian couple there. No one said a word to me or the other couple. I was out in high school and of course I got the occasional comments from people who were just ignorant but i just looked past it. Two years ago a youth group called HAVEN in Bethlehem Pennsylvania started a "gay prom" called the prizm prom. Of course the media was there and they did interviews, but this prom was not only for the GLBT community, it was also for anyone who supported the GLBT's. I hope sometime in the near future there will be just one H.S prom where everyone is accepted. I was blessed enough not to have problems but I know not everyone out there was treated the same as I.
Comment from wisconsinanomaly
This is so true. I didn't go to my high school prom because I was sure I was gay, but even a year after Im still left with more questions than answers. It is true that HS life for a glbt teen is not fun at all, I know from experience. But then again, life is going on and I'm finding myself more and more, though I still dont know who I am. I am part of a community here and together we have strength to do what needs to be done. Keep fighting the right fight and never give up. It does get better as time goes on. Oh yea, and I didn't go to my prom because I wasn't sure who I was or what I wanted and I wasn't a very popular kid because of it.
Comment from Charles
I don't even know why I am writing this. But when I read the article above feelings that I thought were long since expunged came rushing back to bite me in the ass. And I am seventy one years old. But the painful memories now years longer than half a century old came back and assaulted me as though the remembered incidents happened yesterday. G-d, how I hated high school. During four years of classes in a school with about three thousand students I only knew of two other gay guys. Ironically, I could not stand either one of them. Maybe that was the way G-d chose to punish me. But I lived through it. In college it was better. But I had to write this as "un homage" to those brave young people even allowing for the fact that it is easier today for young gay people. Easier but not yet easy despite gay characters on television and Pflag, a plethora of gay organizations and laws against "hate crimes". Many battles have been won, but the war is not over.
Comment from DDiabla13
The reason why straight people is cruel to gay and lesbian is that they are afraid that we are going to ruled the world...And they are so jealous and envy us because they aren't happy with them self...So they need to be cruel to us to make them feel better themselves...And they don't have nothing better to do in there life...They should look at there backyard and see if one of them is just like us....I see it this way everybody was born naked and have every part of organs and we all should be treated equal not different....And if you don't have nothing nice to say to us don't say nothing at all....Peace on Earth!!!!!! :-) ;-)
Comment from kriseagle
I for one am glad to see that someone is finally writing about this subject. As a 34 year old man and originally being from the Deep South going to prom with another male was not even heard of. When prom took place in the city were I grew up you could count on 2 things happening at prom the king and queen were the most popular people in the school and he was the captain of the football team and she most likely the leader of the cheerleading squad. And that every boy that was with a date (female) was gonna get laid that night. I did not attend a prom for I dropped out of school before I could go for personal reasons. but even if I had not of dropped out I would not have went cause the king of the prom and captain of the football team was my lover and I was not going to watch him take a crown and dance with a female knowing that I could not reveal our relationship. I am so glad to hear that many teenage students are coming out and taking there high school lovers it makes me happy for them but sad cause I couldn't do what they are doing. I say go for it students and make them jealous.
Comment from Panthercat
Excellent article, I agree with the writer and wish to add to this my thoughts.....Gay straight lesbian bisexual or transgendered regardless of sexual preference, the whole thing boils down to sexual identity, who you are inside, when one find out, then one truly begins a very long journey to growth much like puberty growth. One must never be ashamed to be who they are, you can alter, hide, paint over it, but you are simply covering up or masking your true self your true identity and this robs you of enjoying years of your life otherwise lost hiding " in a closet ",do not shove your sexual preference down someone else's throat, or force them to accept your preference, accept yourself first them let others come to you slowly....And be yourself most importantly of all.
Comment from badbgboi4u
I really enjoyed this story, because I have been there. I am 24 now but I can still remember when I was in high school. Let me tell you it wasn't very fun for me or my sister. I was a gay male and my sister was a lesbian so you can imagine the problems that we had. Our parents didn't know, of course, and only a FEW friends did, but we somehow got through it. I remember this one time when I was on the football team, and it was after a game that we had won, and the most popular kid in school was obviously the captain of the team, well we all went into the locker room to get cleaned up so we could all go out as a team and celebrate, and everything seemed to be normal until I noticed everyone was staring at me, at first I thought I had something on my face or something but then I realized they were all up to something. After a few moments of uncomfortable silence, I hear someone say my last name, and when I looked over it was the captain of the team aka the most popular guy in school, with his penis in his hand, shaking it at me saying "Come on!! You know you're gay and you want to blow me!!! We ALL know you're a faggot!! I was freakin' out; all I could do was act like he was crazy. I looked at him and started laughing, and I said "What are you talking about? I am not gay, and if you really want someone to suck that thing, your best friend is right next to you." and I walked out. I was so shocked that that had just happened to me, but at the same time I liked what I saw. After that locker room scene I was looked at as the faggot with guts. People still called me names, and said stuff about me, and wrote fag on my locker, and on my desk, but I got through it because I finally realized that some people have nothing better to do, and or they must have some kind of insecurity about their own sexuality, or they are just flat out curious.
Comment from hazellovegem
Hey this thing really touched me wow I never sat and read something so long but this article just really helped me and you're right, I think gay guys should be able to just come out of the closet beside I think gay guys are the best friends to have, especially during high school, because they wont stab you in the back like most girls and they will understand and listen to you when you talk to the and not go off staring at your breasts or trying to get in your pants and lesbians hey have nothing to worry about cause every one loves lesbians plus I think lesbians can more easily come out the closet cause people would just thing that they are two good friends walking together.
Comment from Honest_Man007
I think that being gay is a kind of personal option in life. The problem is not whether to be so or not, but what I obviously think is that many people all over the world still put obstacles between them and gay communities, if not killing them from time to time. Also others think that being gay is against nature and all principles in the whole universe. However, there are parts in the world who respect their own people's options.
Comment from ginnmmou
This was a really frightening moment for me too. I graduated in 2004 and went to the prom with my ex-boyfriend. I thought I was going to be looked at or laughed at but those were only like 4 people all the other prom people didn't seem to mind and it was a really fun time really. But well it must have been because I live in Miami Beach and there is a big gay community. I hope these changes all over the country and the world. I don't understand why people treat us like this, maybe they are frightened .well who knows.
Comment from BU21GUY
Three cheers for the article! I too had to deal with the closeted issues as I was the popular jock in school. Didn't know how to go about everything and you are correct in your assessment that at that age I didn't really know what I wanted. It just didn't feel right doing the hetero role. I did it anyway because I didn't have an outlet. Im dealing with this situation right now my Girlfriend asked me to go to prom with her and I have the feeling that its going to end up bad but I dont know what to do about that but support her.
Comment from exiquiel
...cool... ain't read an article like this - cool....
Comment from esosa
I really thank God for you people, I must say am really impressed, you guys are doing great. More grease to your elbow, please keep it up and continue your good works. Remain blessed.
Comment from Nicole
Well if they were gay, then maybe the situation would have been different. A prom is made for heterosexual teens, NOT gay teens. My God, wake to reality and realize that being gay is wrong. What the f*ck does it take for you to realize that you are stupid to be gay????
Comment from chenalh
I think if you pay for your prom ticket outfits and whatever else goes along with it, then you can bring whomever you please. Some people can be so cruel, but I say if its in your heart, then feel free to love whomever you want to love.
My Comment is that I don't have one; I think this is a really good article.
I think they should be allowed to attend school proms with their boyfriends and girl friends so that the straight guys and gals will all be use to it and they have to accept it!
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