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Playing a Waiting Game
Comment from jojo
Yes, there is still a chance. Leave him be, give him space, but keep calling, just invites, maybe once a week or twice, after two weeks to three weeks of space he will know, you see he said he loves him, so give him space. Get it?
Comment from 2897
Okay, Desperately Befuddled; once you fall off, it's best to just get right back up, dust off your britches, and wait for the next rodeo. Eventually, you'll possibly meet someone else. Still, never let your past manipulate your present or jeopardize your future. See, I'm Thirty years old, single, HIV+, and fully aware there's no one out there for me. Still, I allow myself to enjoy my friends, alleviate stress by lifting weights, and work to find new outlets for my passions; I do drink more than I should, though. I've had some amazing experiences, and I draw joy from my memories of the many good times I've been blessed with. I hope things work out for you and you encounter the kind of happiness and fulfillment you likely deserve.
Comment from whrzmyprince
Well Befuddled, my advice to you would be to let him go. I understand that this guy is telling you that he needs time alone. That is understandable. But if he really wanted to be with you, he would give you the reassurance that he would be returning to you when his head was cleared. Take it from me, keep looking. You will find that person that is willing to commit every minute they can with you. I will be 31 soon, and thanks to Date.Com, I have finally found that person for me. I always thought that I would be alone. It will happen, just be patient.
Comment from Michel
Hi! I think in a case like yours it would be a good idea to ask yourself if the role he played with you was what he really desired or just a narcissistic exploit.
Comment from kevin
I saw a movie yesterday called 'Drift'... It would help Desperately Befuddled a lot I think.. And having plain faith... if it was meant to be, he would come back.. Otherwise Brian's presumptions and advice are absolutely appropriate.. Letting go is a great thing to do.. it takes courage.. I think DB is seeking reassurance. he knows what he needs to do or is going to do... well.. lotsa good luck... remember:-)...just plain faith...with a lot of pragmatism afterwards... a single gay guy never been in relationships...go figure.
Comment from John
Hi, here's a little bit of maybe helpful advice… Man I would just call him every now and again and ask him how are things going so as to keep in touch with each other's lives, that may be a good communication start, if you let him make all the decisions that would not be a good thing. so just send him a card or something letting him know that you had a good time with him and would still like to be friends. if not then I would forget about the whole thing case closed. best luck.
Comment from SEXYGIRL12
Well I would stay on the lookout, he could be trying to break up with you and try to two-time you at the same time. Or he could possibly try to let you down easy, know what I'm saying girl!
Comment from cindy
it sounds to me as if he was on trying to see how far he could get with you and to get you to fall for him, but he was not as interested in you as you were him...don't chase after him let him come to you first....if after awhile he has not bothered to contact you, go on with your life and I am sure there is someone much better than him...let me know if ya find a good man for yourself.... good luck to you It's hard but move on, darling.
Comment from peter
Grab ALL opportunities!
Comment from BU21GUY
Be thankful of the time you had to share with him. I must agree with Brian's advice to move on. If it had been more than one week with no communication, I would have moved on. Anyone that would talk to you that much and then drop off the face of the Earth (without telling you what is going on) doesn't deserve your time. You may have fallen for him but did he fall for you? Obviously not otherwise he would have called and told you what was developing. As for letting him back into your life down the road, I don't think that would happen unless I made it clear that communication is a must!
Comment from Rex for Sex
The advice is right on the money. I too would fear that his friend has resumed his previous relationship, and that is why he had to break off without any explanation. Be happy you had a good time, but don't wait for his return, give someone else their good time! He doesn't sound like a nice person.....suddenly ending everything out of the blue....if he did it once, he more than likely will do it again...I would never wait for him....he is not worth it.
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