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Date.com members speak out about dating/relationship issues
Question: Should you live together before marriage?
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Estella (22)
I say yes, because it's less of a hassle. You don't have to deal with the paperwork, it's less expensive, and if it doesn't work out, you can just leave. |
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Jim (41)
I don't think it should be a requirement, as in you "should" live together. I'm against it, but at the same time it would probably be OK if the couple were already engaged and just waiting on the wedding date to arrive. But if a couple is just dating and think that living together would be a good next step, I think that would be a mistake, more often than not. . |
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Ashley (22)
For me, the answer is no. Being Catholic is part of the reason for my answer, and the other part is simply the fact that I'm more "old fashioned" about such things. Marriage wouldn't seem as significant to me - and for me it holds great significance - if you came home from your wedding and honeymoon and right back to how it was before, living arrangement-wise. I look forward to planning a home together during/after the wedding. . |
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Chris (35)
I don't believe in it because I don't think that the lessons learn living together translate in to a successfull marriage. There is still the element of impermance to a living together arrangement. |
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Alison (26)
I think this is something that needs to be decided by each couple, not a matter of "should" or "should not". Personally, I wouldn't mind living with someone I was engaged to (and I have), but I wouldn't live with someone I was just dating. However, I wouldn't insist on living together before marriage if the other person didn't want to. |
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Mark (26)
Yes. It gives each other a chance to know whatyou're getting into for the rest of your life. People's true moods are experienced when you're with them 24/7. |
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LisaJoanne (25)
I certainly believe in living together before marriage. I wouldn't be against it being some sort of requirement, such as some churches require counseling. I think it's the best way to truly get to know someone. And also the quickest way to find out their bad habits that may make it impossible to live with them, i.e. complete slob or has a violent temper. I'm sure it's easier to move out, than it would be to get a divorce. |
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Leslie (32)
Well, I've cohabitated and it didn't lead to marriage (either time). I guess that should mean my answer is "no", but I'd hate to get an unwelcome surprise after marrying the guy and finding out he has, um, habits that I can't live with. So I guess that means my answer is "yes.". |
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Matthew (26)
Yes. It is best to know if the two of you will get along after living with each other for a while. Some people do get on each others nerves, and this at least will allow you to know first hand if you can stand the other person without the trouble of getting a divorce if you can't. |
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Shannon (26)
From a logical, practical perspective, I would say "yes" because the "see if you can stand each other" argument makes sense in theory. From a real-life perspective, I would say "no" because when you find out that you can't stand each other, but you've invested so much time and effort into making it work, it's difficult to call it quits and you will most likely end up in an unhappy marriage followed by a bitter divorce. Also, I believe that a man who lives with his girlfriend will not propose marriage unless he's forced to - and who wants to force someone into marriage? |
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