The Secret to Geting What You Truly Deserve

In my last article, “The Secret to Get What you Want” I explained that there are three key elements missing from the DVD “The Secret”. Yes, there are other key Laws that must be applied to attain

success and happiness - to get what you want in life. I explained that two of those elements are Taking Action and Giving Back. Deciding to set a goal and visualizing having that goal or result isn't

enough to make it a reality. You must Take Action. And action is the difference between a fantasy and a dream come true!

Giving Back is about contributing to others, making a difference and adding value to other people's lives. Our deepest sense of satisfaction and fulfillment comes from helping others and bringing joy to

others. Scientific studies have also shown that every time we commit an act of kindness it raises our levels of Serotonin and other endorphins (feel-good chemicals released by our brain.) Thus, giving

back to others also makes us feel good! There is joy in giving!

Now let’s talk about the most important element and factor to success in life. Now let’s talk about how you can get what you truly deserve!

First, let me ask you: What do you truly deserve?

Then, another question: What do you believe you truly deserve?

There is a vast difference between what you say you deserve and what you believe you deserve. There is a vast difference between what you consciously say you deserve and what you subconsciously

believe you deserve.

Do you know someone who seems to always attract crummy people and situations into his or her life? Do you know someone who always seems to sabotage things when they are going well?

Take Mary for example.

Somehow Mary always lands jobs where she is poorly treated or ripped off. Somehow Mary seems to end up attracting loser partners. Somehow something always happens each month and she

struggles yet again to pay the bills, unable to buy that new car or computer. For her, it is always the same old stuff, the same sad and disappointing pattern in life.

But all her friends keep telling her, “Mary, you deserve so much more, you deserve to be treated better at work and at home.” Of course, Mary does deserve to have the best, the best of everything. After

all, Mary is smart, intelligent, bright, loyal, a good friend, kind and giving, funny and loving -and highly attractive. And Mary replies, “I know I deserve to be treated better and to have more success and

happiness in life. I know I deserve to have a better paying job, where I am treated with respect. And I know I deserve to be loved and respected in my personal relationships, at home and socially. But I

just don’t know why this keeps happening to me!”

Does this scenario sound familiar? Can you relate to Mary?  Maybe you might relate to John who always seems to lose money in his investments; everything he seems to touch turns out to be a lemon

and he keeps being rejected in business and personal life.

So what is wrong? Why isn’t John getting what he wants? Why isn’t Mary getting what she wants? Why isn’t Mary getting what she says she truly deserves?

The key is what you subconsciously believe about you and your self-worth!

This is what I have termed as the Law of Deservedness: You get only what you subconsciously believe you deserve! And if you get more, you will sabotage it or push it away.

What do you subconsciously believe you deserve? THAT is what you are ready to receive!

Now let's consider some more examples.

Did you know that almost all lottery winners lose all of their earnings within 2-3 years and many more end up becoming miserable, often destroying their families and lives?

Why?

Could it be because money is the root of all evil?

No, because the Biblical quote actually reads, "The love of money is the root of all evil" In other words, when one becomes obsessed with money and loses all sense of the truly important things in life

pain sets in. And recall, Moses and King Solomon were some of the richest people in Biblical history so the problem isn’t money or having money.

Accordingly, let's look more closely at the phenomenon that one TV documentary on E! Television called: "Curse of the Lottery" and let's explore how that relates to success and The Law of

Deservedness.

It's what dreams are made of:  buy anything you want and more.  But for some, winning the lottery is not all champagne, limousines and mansions, and brings only misery and regret.

The sudden influx of cash can lead down a dark road to drugs, bankruptcy and even death. Why does blissful prosperity rarely ensue? Are those who win big truly destined for doom?

Uncovering the stories behind 10 real-life lucky ticket holders, E! sits with lottery winners, their friends and family, as well as financial planners and lottery experts, to find out why some who score jackpot

rise to the top, while others fall rock bottom.

The two-hour special episode "THS Investigates: The Curse of the Lottery".

The lottery is a multi-billion dollar business that is fueled by the fantasy that one ticket can mean instant fortune and happiness. For lottery winners Jack Whittaker, William "Bud" Post, Victoria Zell and

Billie Bob Harrell Jr., the dream of winning big-time bucks came true, but what they ended up losing as a result was tragic.

Jack Whittaker of West Virginia won the largest Powerball jackpot in history, only to be robbed, confronted with serious legal issues and eventually have his family torn apart by alcohol and drug abuse.

Lottery winner Bud Post of Pennsylvania was almost murdered for his money when his own brother hired a hit-man to kill him in an attempt to rake in his cash.

Victoria Zell struck lottery gold in Minnesota but landed in jail after being found guilty on multiple counts of vehicular homicide.

And Texan lottery winner Billie Bob Harrell sadly ended his own life after out-of-control spending sprees and an affair left him deeply in debt and divorced.

• Gladys Burrous on her dad — "My dad got so much happier when he had nothing, after the money was gone.  He realized what was important."

• Amy Klobuchar, Hennepin County Prosecuting Attorney, on lottery winner Victoria Zell — "Here was a woman that had millions and millions of dollars that just came into her hands through the lottery.

And instead of putting it into good work, she frittered it away. She frittered it away on meth. She frittered it away on cocaine. And she basically frittered away her life."

So what happened with all of these “winners”? What went wrong?

Recall, earlier I said that The Law of Deservedness states: You get only what you subconsciously believe you deserve! And if you get more, you will sabotage it or push it away.

That’s right. These people responded to the winnings in a way that reflected what they believed they deserved at a subconscious level. They simply didn’t subconsciously believe they deserved all of the

success, money, attention, and wealth.

As a Celebrity Life Coach, I have seen this phenomenon repeated many times in the lives of the famous. In fact, many of the celebrities who are presently turning to alcohol and drugs do so to escape

themselves and their subconscious beliefs that they are either an impostor or not good enough. As I explain in my Teleseminar, “The Secret to Get What You Truly Deserve” nothing outside of you can

make you happy inside. It can add to our joy but it cannot make up for self-doubt, fear, self-loathing or subconscious desire for self-punishment or self-blame.

Recently, FOX News interviewed me to talk about Keifer Sutherland, his DUI and now his prison sentence. I explained that Keifer is acting the same way that Michael Vick (sports star arrested for animal

cruelty) did. Here are rich, famous and successful people who openly sabotage their success because deep down they doubt their self-worth, returning to their roots. Remember, Michael Vick grew up

in a tough neighborhood, his mother was 16 when she gave birth to him and his father was rarely around.

Let me explain it this way. Based on your childhood experiences you subconsciously made associations, conclusions and generalizations about money, life, the world and what you deserve.

Here is a simple gauge of what you might subconsciously believe about yourself. How do you respond when someone praises you or offers you a compliment?

Do you say, “Oh, you’re too kind…actually, I am having a bad hair day…it’s just a cheap dress…but I feel fat…it was just luck…I don’t know how I did it…etc”?

There is only one response to praise or a compliment: “Thank you!”

If you can’t receive a compliment, how can you receive anything else good in your life?

When you deny compliments or gifts, you are in effect saying, “I don’t deserve it…I am not good enough…I am not worthy” and this belief will be reflected in every area of your life. Choose now to accept

compliments and feel and believe that you deserve them. And if you can’t give compliment or praise, then understand that you can only see in others what you see in yourself!

Recently, when I was featured on MSNBC speaking about Paris Hilton’s woes, Chris Jansing said to me that most people would say that Paris has too much confidence and doesn’t have a problem

with low self-esteem or self-doubt. I responded by saying that there is a vast difference between arrogance, which stems from low self-esteem, and confidence. Arrogance says, “I am better than you”

and is actually fueled by the attempt to cover up or compensate for the subconscious belief that you are not good enough. Confidence, on the other hand, says, “I know and accept myself, my strengths

and limitations and I believe in my capabilities.” Self-confidence comes from the subconscious belief that we can be, do or have something. Self-confidence also reflects self-respect and respect for

others.

Thus, any negative self-beliefs will impact what you receive and achieve in life and to what extent you will be able to enjoy what you have. Recall, in my last article, “The Secret to Get What You Want!”, I

said that you must take action to get results. If you don’t believe you deserve the best in life, you won’t even try -you will make no attempt and take no action.

Look in your heart: do you feel guilty for something you said or did in the past? Do you put yourself down and continually criticize yourself? Did someone tell you that you are no good or don’t deserve to

be happy, rich and wealthy? Do you feel or believe that others are better than you?

So no matter what it is that you want from life: Self-esteem, supreme confidence, more money, wealth, health, love, joy, better and more rewarding relationships, a better job, financial freedom, inner

peace, the ability to overcome crippling habits, or personal power – you need to know and apply the key to success and happiness.  You need to know the secret to get what you truly deserve.

What would you say if I were to tell you that you have the power to create your destiny and obtain anything you want, and that you have been already using this power to create your present circumstances

and everything you have in your life?

What I share with you in my book “Get What You Want!” is the greatest and most powerful secret in existence. This secret and its associated techniques are the ones used by the most successful

people in history. In this book I teach you the technique to master your mind and attract into your life everything you want. It doesn’t matter what your present situation is or how many times you might

have failed in the past, with a simple technique that takes a matter of minutes of daily practice, you will transform your life and get what you want.

-  By Patrick Wanis, PhD -Human Behavior Expert and Celebrity Life Coach, Featured Guest Writer

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