What Does a Man Look For in a Woman?


What exactly does a guy look out for in a gal's behavior to indicate to him that she may be interested in him as much as he is interested in her?

If a girl/woman likes me, some things that help me determine this, WHEN LOOKED AT AS A WHOLE, are the following:

• She seeks opportunities to spend time with me, or to converse with me (before we actually date).

 

• She asks her friends, my friends, or even me, a bunch of questions about my personality and/or life interests.

 

• She gives me flirty compliments.

 

• She teases me constantly, without actually being malicious. If she thinks she might have hurt my feelings by one of her jests, she apologizes.

 

• She asks me about my dating/marital status.

 

• She asks me out as more than friends.

 

• She makes eye contact, if even briefly, and smiles (sometimes because I smile first).

 

• She leans into me, or touches me, while we talk. Invading my personal space in an "intimate" way is a big turn-on for me.

 

• She manhandles me in a playful way.

 

• She makes sacrifices or compromises because she wants to please me. (Example: The girl I'm seeing switched shifts and made a difficult schedule for herself to be off with me on Valentine's Day.)

 

• She uses a cute nickname for me.

 

• She blushes like crazy if someone even suggests a romantic link between us.

 

• She makes/cooks something for me that takes obvious effort.

 

• She remembers insignificant little things I've said or done...things I'd hardly remember myself.

 

• She seems jealous if other romantic interests in my life are mentioned.

 

• She tries to assault me with a stuffed animal, or similar playfulness/goofiness. (I actually got semi-molested by Minnie Mouse while at Disney World with my sister and my (then) GF. Some rodents just won't take "NO" for an answer!)

 

• She feels comfortable enough to undress around me, or she asks me to help her pick out something to wear, while standing in front of me practically nude. This does not apply to family relations. (THIS is an amateur's method of seduction, but it DOES get a guy's attention if he's interested/not related to you.)

I thought these were just personal reasons to think a girl/woman was "diggin'" me. Now that I think more about it, these are pretty clear-cut signs for many guys, when viewed in the big (whole) picture.

Body language is something that, unfortunately, mostly women and guy players have nailed, while everyone else is clueless. While my list wasn't just body-language cues, I can't stress how important it is to watch both HER body language and YOURS in social situations. Also keep in mind, her body language may change attitudes through a conversation as SHE changes attitudes in the conversation. She may start off cold, then work up some heat, or vice versa. You need to pay attention to that, monitoring it throughout.

Please note: Just because a woman is sending you all the right signals, it doesn't mean you should jump all over her. On the contrary, try to remain a little bit of a challenge, if even just a little one. It'll drive her nuts if she's interested.

For example... Just sitting around chatting with a bartender and a waitress at a bar across the street from my work, I practically got felt-up by a gorgeous married woman tonight. All I did was smile and say "hi" when she bumped into me at the bar! I had no intention of hitting on her, or working into an "approach", yet I almost had to tell her to behave herself. I don't mess with "taken" women. THAT was a little disconcerting! Be careful who you let approach you. This woman and I started talking, and she was sending signals like a lioness getting ready to pounce. I made an exit by telling her it was nice talking, but I had things to do in the morning. She asked me for a hug before I left. That's about as far as I'll go with someone else's woman. Ya gots ta have respect for others.

- by Kommando, Featured Guest Writer

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